In my first interview back after having my babe, it feels so fitting to be talking to the delightful Nic Strack as I begin to navigate the parent path.

Nic (pronouns they/them) is a Whole Human Parenting Coach, supporting parents to honor and embrace the fullness of their own & their child’s humanity. In working with Nic, folks have opportunities to cultivate self-awareness in order to live and parent in alignment with their integrity.

Nic got me thinking about parenting and re-parenting, and I’m finding there’s such a deeper piece in their work — in reflection of self and the way we operate and lead ourselves in the world that is a reflection on the way we were parented and the way we want to show up for each other in the world (whether that’s for our children or otherwise).

In this episode, we talk about how parenting relates to self-parenting and harboring resentment of how you were or were not raised — and then how to find compassion through all of that. We talk about seeing something as a problem that needs to be fixed vs. something to be with, and then getting precise about what you’re actually experiencing when faced with discomfort. And we also talk about navigating the gender binary for your children and checking yourself when you’re projecting in your parenting.

“The relationship you have with yourself defines the relationship you have with your child.” -Nic Strack


  • In the intro, I talk about the vision board I do every year in Hearthfire
  • Nic mentions their teacher, Dr. Jenn McCabe, talking about bringing awareness to when we frame something as a problem

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Episode #75: On (re)Parenting that Heals with Nic Strack

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