I asked my dear friend, Nisha Moodley, to join me today to talk about belonging in community. It’s a big topic, but Nisha and I are in the same community. We used to live down the street from each other and we are in a circle of women that gather each month under the new moon. We’ve seen each other grow and change over the years, but have both been committed to creating meaningful and lasting community—no matter how hard and uncomfortable it can be. And, it turns out, it can be pretty uncomfortable to create healthy relationships, and it’s totally worth it.
In our conversation, Nisha and I talk about what it means to be deep friends, how we can be more inclusive in our circles, how we can get our needs met in community, the collective vision of the village and how we can get back to that, how to navigate conflict in friendship and community, the importance of making agreements, and her journey into motherhood and how our current system doesn’t support mothers very well.
“The lie that we’re taught is that relationships are supposed to be really easy, but a nourishing relationship isn’t inherently an easy relationship.” -Nisha Moodley
Resources:
- Nisha mentioned Andréa Ranae’s Coaching as Activism program as an example of someone who teaches about creating and holding space for others
- The Millionth Circle by Jean Shinoda Bolen
More from Nisha Moodley:
How do you lean into conflict to create nourishing relationships and community?
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Credit for the phrase “be a good ancestor” goes to Arianna of Quw’utsun’ Made
