I shared an Instagram post recently (see below) about how I’m rewiring my brain to recognize success in the work I do now—even though it doesn’t match up financially to where I was when I quit my corporate job. The response to my post was clear: you all want to hear more about this. So in this episode, I’m sharing my journey of redefining success for myself and reworking my relationship with the “hustle” mindset, with capitalism, with being able to slow down according to how my body wants to be in each season, and how I’ve realized what I’m compelled to do as my mission in this world.
“If we don’t look at the ways we are defining what work is or the ways our very unique bodies can thrive, then we’re going to repeat the harmful patterns of Capitalism.”
- Belonging Episode #21: Opting Out of Linear Time Stephanie Burg
- Glennon Doyle – “Figure out what breaks your heart in the world. That’s your purpose.”
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Hi. I run my own business and it’s important to me that you know something about that.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ I’m nowhere near making the amount of money that I was bringing in 5 years ago when I was a Marketing and Community Manager at a big tech company. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ But I can certainly say that I feel more successful than I’ve ever been. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ And more powerful. ⠀⠀ And happier. ⠀⠀ And healthier. ⠀⠀ And making a far bigger impact in my community, in my relationships, and in my work with the womxn who join my sisterhood membership and go on retreats with me. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ I am more available to the people and things that truly matter to me. I am more deeply tuned into my partnership with Tim and what we both need to thrive in our own ways. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ I am feeling the wealth in *that*.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ This has been my biggest season of unlearning in my short existence on this fragile planet. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ I now see how much pressure I’d been putting on myself to “match” my former life in dollars and output when that whole system had me crumbling and burned out and unwell. I made such a big leap from one paradigm into another that I didn’t even understand and that transition was really really hard. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ I was watching all these “successful” people crushing it in their businesses (I use quotes because we never see the full story online and also…what is financial success or tons of followers when you feel like shit?) and kept trying to apply their methods to my own. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Me….a woman called back to the earth and the witchy ways of her ancestors….trying to employ the gotcha marketing methods of six-figures-overnight-on-pinterest business coaches. I laugh now because WTF. That was never going to work for me. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ There’s been a lot of de-programming, un-learning, and re-wilding going on over here, and I feel how powerful it’s made me. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ I truly understand what it means to be compelled by a mission in the world. I am here to talk about and cultivate belonging in this age of loneliness. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ I’ve had a lot of privilege to support this path, yes. And I’m so so grateful to my past self for making the leap and doing the necessary work so I can use that privilege for a whole lot more than the prison I locked myself in.
What does success really mean to you?
Credit for the phrase “be a good ancestor” goes to Arianna of Quw’utsun’ Made