As you probably know by now, I’m passionate about rewriting the rules on holiday gift giving and spreading the word about the magic of making gifts for your loved ones instead of overspending on a gift that doesn’t have much meaning.
I also want you to know how important it is that the time you spend making your gifts feels really special and sacred.
That’s because the love and good intentions you want your loved ones to feel when they receive their gift starts with the delight you feel in putting the gift together.
This making time is just as much a gift to you as it is to your loved ones, and it just takes a little curating to set the scene.
What do I mean by that?
Craft the tone of your making time to feel truly pleasurable and sacred. Light some candles, simmer some hot apple cider, and invite over some girlfriends to your sacred gift making gathering.
As you’re sipping your warm beverage in the flickering candlelight and giggling with your best girls over inside jokes, you’ll feel your whole body relax. And that makes a big difference compared to rushing through a project while also listening to the news, texting with your spouse, and drying your hair for evening plans. Your gifts will feel as good as you do when you are making them.
I’ve provided a little guide below to help you.
- When you invite your girlfriends (via group text, email, or handwritten invite!), let them know that this isn’t going to be a Martha Stewart workshop in perfect crafting. No, you are inviting them to gather together (just as your great great grandmothers once did) to connect, joyfully work with your hands, and knock out holiday gifts all in one evening. They’ll say yes so fast, you won’t know what happened.
- To avoid hostess burnout (cuz we’ve all been there), make it a potluck. Brew some tea (or chai or mulled wine!), light some candles, and put on some fuzzy socks. Feeling cozy and comfortable is super key to a sacred gathering.
- Play beautiful music. I’ve got this playlist I recently created for the women in The Creative Sisterhood on repeat.
- Lay out your ingredients and supplies so they are easy to see and locate. I find that a lot of stress around doing a crafty project tends to be relieved when you can see everything you have to work with. It lets your brain know that it’s safe to start playing and exploring its more creative crevices.
- Before the women have arrived, burn sage to clear the energy of the room. You can use a feather or your hand to fan the smoke to every corner of the room and set the intention for a beautiful night of joyful making and sisterhood.
- Begin with eyes closed, a deep breath, and have each woman state aloud her intentions for that day and the gifts she’s making and the impact they will have on their intended recipients.
- Let the making magic unfold. Trust your creative instincts and dive in. Watch how delightful giggles and inspiration bubbles up out of the group. You’ll be sharing ideas, recipes, and bow tying techniques in no time.
I remember the first making party I ever hosted. I was so nervous and trying to have everything *just so* for everyone’s creativity to flow. What I’ve learned over the years is to set the scene, take a deep breath, and allow for the creative magic to happen. It’s truly amazing how much magic happens when women come together and work with their hands.
Now it’s your turn.
Grab your girlfriends and schedule in your date for a Sacred Gift Making Day. You’ll be so happy you did.
Photo Credit: Rosa Delgado.