“Creating these spaces for sisterhood is such a valuable opportunity to shift the expectation society puts on people and meet people with acceptance. What we can do in these spaces is create a different experience of belonging for women.” - Kelsey Mech
A few weeks ago, a conversation was started amongst the women in Hearthfire talking about wanting to know more about creating in-person creative women’s circles in their areas.
Here’s some of what was said...
"I want to begin a witchy, goddessy group in my town, but not sure which rituals to start with since I live in a very non-witchy area”
“How neat would it be to spread this idea in our own towns?! Let’s learn together so we can provide this to women everywhere.”
“I love the idea of a creativity circle...I’ve been craving more connection in my life and other groups I’ve tried aren’t the right fit and too far away from me to be worth it.”
“THIS topic IS the exact reason that I joined this sisterhood!"
I get this question a lot—how can you create your own close circle of creative women who want to work with their hands or honor the moon or have deep, meaningful conversations (or all 3!)?
I love discussing this, as it’s something I’ve been working on myself over the past couple of years since I moved to a new town (I talk more about it in this post). I found myself feeling isolated and, even though I was making friends and acquaintances at the gym and library and coffee shop, I wanted something deeper. I wanted to commune with women in a space of sacred creative sisterhood.
So, after convincing myself I couldn’t have it, I changed my mind and decided I’d create it on my own. I opened myself up to the possibility of getting it and, within a few weeks, I was part of a circle of women that meets on the full moon each month. I talk more about the details of that group in the video below.
There are so many ways to create your own creative women’s circle. And, to prove that point, I invited my friend Kelsey Mech (who is also a member of The Creative Sisterhood) to share the story of how she created her own group this year. Check it out!
Some Takeaways from our Conversation:
- Start small. Just ask some women if they want to get together and make stuff together. Women want this!
- “Working with your hands is a ritual in itself.” It’s the gateway to the more witchy, spiritual stuff.
- For busy women, have them commit at least 1 month ahead of time. Doodle polls are super helpful!
- Leverage women’s gifts and strengths - teachers, facilitators, hosts, cooks, space holder, email organizers.
- Let women know it’s ok to communicate where they’re at and show up no matter what’s going on for them.
- Check out The Millionth Circle: The Essential Guide to Women’s Circles by Jean Shinoda Bolen
- It’s all ok, there is no right or wrong. Every manifestation of this concept is perfect.
We are all craving a deeper connection with community. We are yearning for that feeling of the "village" being there for each other and being able to let our guard down when we are around other women. To bravely choose to gather together and have more meaningful conversations with women, we remember that we belong to community. We remember that we aren't destined to lonely for the rest of our lives. We aren't rejected by the herd. We belong.
I want to hear from you!
If you have started a women’s circle or sister group, I’d love to know more about what you’ve created and how it works. Let me know by leaving a comment below.
Continue your journey:
- Hearthfire
- Belonging Episode #1: Sisterhood and Anxiety
- Remembering How to Heal
- Why This Sisterhood Thing Can Be So Hard
This was a wonderful video to watch. It is interesting to get the various perspectives. I would call my connection with most women temperamental and this is something I’ve always wanted to improve in my life. The last time I was a part of a women’s circle was when I was between the ages of 14 and 17. It is something I miss greatly. Most of those women were much older than myself and I found some difficulty at the time relating to them. It is in retrospect that I realize the value of that experience.
Yes, Tamarra! Diversity of age, perspective, work, and life path is so important in sister’s circles!
Loved this video, Ladies!
Thank you!!
I would like to start such a circle in my community but how do you decide where the actual meeting will take place? I live in a very small apartment and I don’t think I can have more than three or four persons at a time? Where do you go when you have no space?
These are wonderful questions and it’s really all up to you. Don’t be afraid to take imperfect action. You could start in your apartment and, if attendance grows, you could find another person’s home that is bigger or meet at a coffee shop or local gathering place. You got this!